Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

UPDATE: 

It has been brought to my attention that Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has been quoted as saying that trans women are not women. Adichie went on to try and clarify her comments. You can read about the incident here.

I just wanted to be very clear that I fully support all of my trans and non-binary siblings. 

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Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a book that I wish I’d had in my life a long time ago. 

Whilst not technically a children’s book, I decided to include this on The Inquisitive Newt for two reasons.

Firstly, because I wish I had read this during my teenage years, when I was stumbling into my initial romantic relationships. I feel that having reasonable expectations, printed in black and white, would have given me permission to advocate for myself and my rights within the ‘partnerships’ more.  I plan to give a copy to Daughter when puberty takes hold.

Secondly,  I included it because I would have loved to read it after having given birth.  I came to a lot of the conclusions myself, but I often felt alone in my convictions regarding feminism and motherhood.  Ironically,  given that I’ve categorised this review as my first ‘parenting’ title,  I especially loved the section regarding the use of ‘parenting’ as a verb.

I really love the tone of the text – that it was adapted from a letter gives it an enormous warmth and immediacy. I’ve read a lot of books about feminism but they can often feel… Academic,  rather than practical.  This one felt like a conversation with a friend, which I suppose it is.

Are there any books you wish you had come across sooner? Are there any you plan to read/gift to your children for this reason?

Farn ❤

4 Replies to “Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie”

    1. I hope you get a copy – this is honestly one of my favourite books ever. I try to get it for every new parent in my life. 🙂

      I’ve read Adichie’s other book ‘We Should All Be Feminists’ and that was amazing too, but I want to get some more of her work.

      Have you read ‘Invisible Women’ by Caroline Criado Perez? I’m reading it just now, though I have to admit it’s hard work to get through – not because the writing was bad, but because the subject matter is so difficult.

      (I could chat books for days on end – I’d love any recommendations you have. You can never have too many books!)

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      1. I have read so many good books that I unfortunately, do not remember. However, I have enjoyed most of Maya Angelou’s books and especially, I Know Why Caged Birds Sing. Also, try Daughters, bu the same author. I also remember enjoying the book, The Triumph of Seeds, by Thor Hanson. I hope this helps, Farn 🙂

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  1. Ooh… They all sound like amazing books! I think I’m going to start with ‘I Know Why Caged Birds Sing’ though – it’s been on my reading list for AGES but I keep getting distracted. Daughters and Triumph of Seeds are currently numbers 3 and 7, respectively! 😀 I’ll let you know how I get on! ❤

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